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The Art of Getting By

Life as we know it is quite an irony. A mix of every complication possible. A journey of both ends of the extreme. A disappointing yet uplifting experience wherein emotions become too unstable, unpredictable and fickle. One moment, you are doing okay, and then something hits you, and your heart is torn apart again. But as the seconds tick by, you realize that you are still lucky even with the unfortunate circumstance, and you’re back to being okay again. “Okay” which does not necessarily mean you are happy but at least you are handling the situation better than before or as expected from yourself.

I realized that when you grow up, you learn to say that you are okay even if you are not. This may not, in any way, sound encouraging in an untainted’s perspective but soon enough, things will begin to clear up and fall into place to make your eyes see the bigger and deeper picture. For some, it’s to hide what they really feel, stay strong or hide their weakness in front of people. But on the other side of the coin, saying okay even when your insides are crumbling can be a good thing if you just know how to look into the picture. It’s an opportunity that can help you even in the tiniest way possible. I say this because, in a way, you are trying to help yourself. You are trying to lift yourself by starting to say that you are okay. Maybe at first, you pretend to be okay in front of others, but in some ways, it motivates you to pull yourself together even for a brief moment, even if it’s not for yourself.  To still go on with a normal life whatever that may be for you right now. To pick up the pieces and form a new, a better and stronger you.

And then slowly, without you knowing it, you start living the life like you used to. You smile again, laugh again and feel like your normal self. One day at a time, you get those broken pieces and patch them together until pretending becomes no more than merely a phase that led you to your new reality. And then as time goes by (a truly lovely, wistful, romantic, and touching  old song), you just wake up on one of those quiet days and realize that you have gone past the art of getting by. And you’re already spending your days not merely through getting by but getting the life you truly deserve. A full life. A life you enjoy with the simple things that really matter.

When I thought of this phrase “The Art of Getting By” I wasn’t aware that someone has already thought of it and made it a movie (I’ll have to watch it). It just simply captures what I feel and as I know I am not the only one experiencing this, the art of getting by is a natural phase in anyone’s life. You may not actually know you are doing it but the mere fact that you are deciding to survive in this cruel life is proof enough. Not only of life’s crazy idiosyncrasies, but of your personal strength, character and faith.

If you’ve heard of One Art by Elizabeth Bishop, here’s an excerpt:

The art of losing isn’t hard to master; 
so many things seem filled with the intent
to be lost that their loss is no disaster.

– Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture
I love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident
the art of losing’s not too hard to master
though it may look like (Write it!) like a disaster.

Then by all means, we should all create another beautiful art: The Art of Getting By. Because even though it seems hard like a disaster, in the end, we come out alive, wiser and more appreciative of this life, if we learn to get used to it each passing day.

I shall then conclude my friends, that someday, I’ll have to write a book about this everyday yet unrealized Art. 😀

For now, I’ll have to master it first.


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